Heart Wrenching Moment – Hair Cut or Pulling Hair?
For people who had the luxury of not having to face a crying child when it is time for a haircut, I say: You are so lucky! My son would flipped like it is end of the world. We tried everything… We brought his favourite biscuits, toys and even let him watched his favourite shows on our mobile phone. The minute he sees the scissor or shaver, all hell breaks loose. He yelled, screamed and would push away the shaver or anything that comes near to him. He would cry till his face turned all red and hysterical.
We were puzzled with his fear. In an attempt to help him get ready for a haircut, we walked around the barber shop and let him see the hair stylist a few days before it happened. We mimicked the hair cutting movement. My father in law even bought a hair shaver to let him has a try himself to feel the vibrating sound and etc. All our efforts were futile the moment he stepped into the shop and panicked. He wanted to be out of the place without any delay. We went through the motion while he screamed, yelled and struggled. Often he came out in tears, looking dejected and sunken. He was depressed, but when we questioned if he looked nice, he said yes. That led to the next question, shall we cut again? The answer was pretty obvious – a definite no!
That led us to think of more ways to help him. We tried to set an example where my hubby went in for the hair cut while he stood there and watched his dad. He was happy and even reached out to his dad. However, we were back to square one when it was his turn, and concluded that this method does not work.
Next, we tried taking matters into our own hands. The first step was to distract him with toys at the corridor. My father in law kept him still, my helper distracted him with biscuits while I tried to cut. With 3 of us, we still barely manage to cut as he got into anxiety mood each time he saw hair falling. It was after two tries before we barely managed to get a trim – not to mention a horrible cut.
We reverted back to the barber’s and tried making him seat in a special children seat, in hopes it would motivate him to be positive for a haircut. Our plan failed again as we watched him zapped back into anxiety. It ended with him in my arms as the barber proceeded to cut his hair.
Felicia Tan, speaker, blogger and author of To Baby With Love, Lost And Found and A Gift From Heaven draws her experience from two miscarriages and one rainbow baby, had a deep understanding of the issues faced by pregnant mothers, mothers who have lost their children and being a mother.
Having gone through an arduous journey filled with disappointments, she started Art Of Life to share about her journey and how she overcame them through a positive mindset.
Her stories has led to features on The Straits Times, Motherhood, Young Parents and more.
Read more about her.https://www.babyclub.com.sg/hair-cut-pulling-hair/FeaturedPregnancy For people who had the luxury of not having to face a crying child when it is time for a haircut, I say: You are so lucky! My son would flipped like it is end of the world. We tried everything... We brought his favourite biscuits, toys and even...Felicia TanFelicia Tanfeliciatan@babyclub.com.sgAuthorBaby Club Singapore